My Impossible List is based on a movement started by Joel Runyon over at Impossible HQ. I first read about it over at College Info Geek and really connected with the concept of it. Joel describes the list as a challenge. It’s not about settling for what’s possible in your life, but instead striving towards goals that you didn't think possible, and growing as you achieve them.
This will be a lifelong working document that I add to, change, tick off and elaborate on as I pursue my journey.
It’s meant to be a fluid document that changes as you do, and a record of what you’ve done and still wish to do. I’ve included a few of my fun/miscellaneous goals in here, not necessarily big challenges, but goals I want to complete nonetheless.
Last Updated: 25th June 2017
Health and Fitness Goals
Abstain from eating anything with added sugar for an entire month
Run in a ParkRun event
Run 3km non-stop
Complete 20 push-ups in a row
Be flexible enough to do the splits
Complete a fitness challenge
Attend a martial arts class
Attend a beginners dance class
Have meaningful conversations with ten people and record key learnings
Create a public slide deck
Get published in a major online publication
Give a live talk/presentation
Complete my university degree
Start a business
Gain skills that allow me to become self-sufficient and location independent
Attend a conference
Build my personal and business network
Gain a solid understanding of basic financial principles
Get 1000 website visitors
Setup and distribute my monthly newsletter
Self-publish an eBook
Speak on a Podcast episode
Create a video for my online portfolio
Learn how to create and publish an online course
Gain my first $100 of side income
Create an iPad/iPhone App
Complete Blake Boles’ online course - The Way of Adventure
Complete the Praxis Online Entrepreneurship Course
Learn basic self-defence
Cook 50 different dishes
Create a piece of artwork for my wall
Learn basic calligraphy skills
Bake and decorate a large themed cake
Write a song
Go backpacking by myself (minimum of two weeks)
Visit Hobbiton in New Zealand
Visit Harry Potter World
Travel to a country in South-East Asia
Walk part of the Camino de Santiago
Visit an Island country
Road Trip around Australia
Work on a cruise ship
Visit Lietchersen (small European country)
Find hobbies and work that fulfills me
Have a healthy, happy and loving family
Create a lifestyle that prioritises passive income, travel, and freedom
Pursue a path of lifelong self-directed learning
Work towards a minimalist mindset when it comes to purchasing material objects
Buy a property
Live and work overseas
Invest in a startup
Have a large reading library
My Life Guidelines Thus Far
Don’t play small
Take a step out of your comfort zone every day
Don’t let sugar take control
Age is never an excuse
Always ask questions
You need to be able to stand up for your beliefs
Being honest is hard but necessary
Don’t push the people you love away when life gets hard
Sometimes you have to make the hard decision, and deal with the consequences
If you make an impossible list I’d love to read it!
Are you happy with who you are? Are you content with your life?
'Sometimes the hardest part of the journey is believing you're worthy of the trip.'
Yes, there’s always areas of our mental, spiritual, physical and emotional selves that we are working on improving, but they shouldn't compromise our feelings of self-worth.
'Based on how you see yourself you will conclude what your worth is and how valuable you are.'
Self-worth often takes a journey of self-discovery and reflection to find, and sometimes it may be buried under years of hurt and criticism. It could take a while before you find it, but keep searching, don’t worry, it’ll be there.
'Your value doesn't decrease based on someone's inability to see your worth.'
It’s a word that’s often tied in with self-confidence and self-love. They’re almost a trio of sorts, and I think that they’re all interwoven together in our core identity. It would be difficult to have one without the others, and I believe that it’s important to look after all three areas.
‘I went from zero to my own here.’ -Roar, Katy Perry
Last year I came to realise that I often lacked confidence in my ability to achieve and complete things. Over the past few years I have been faced with many challenges, exams and assessments, and usually wasn’t very confident beforehand that I would pass and be successful.
Whenever I approached another bridge my head would fill up with self doubt, and I would question whether I was even supposed to be there. I’ve felt like an imposter in my own life. I didn’t think it wasn’t a question of confidence, but a question of how I see myself. I then started focusing on exploring my self-worth, and how it affected my approach to challenges.
Self-worth is defined as 'the sense of one's own value or worth as a person.'
Tips to build self-worth:
- Stop comparing yourself to others
- Challenge your critical inner voice
- Acknowledge that imperfection is something all humans share
- Practice self-compassion towards yourself and your experiences
- Take part in activities that are meaningful to you
- Act in line with your values and ethics
I used to wonder why I let my inner critic be in charge for so long. I think it may have been because it was easier to take failure when I didn't think I had a shot. It's a lot harder to give a challenge everything you have, and then not be successful.
I’ve now decided that I'm not really living as my true self, if I don't hit every challenge with all the strength I have. Then if I don't succeed I have the assurance that I gave it my best. To me that’s an indicator that I’ve found my self-worth, and have confidence in who I am as a person. I understand my strengths and weaknesses, and am happy with who I am.
"I think self love is the most important kind of love. With it you don't have to rely on anyone else to validate you as a person, and it's the kind of love that when nurtured, allows you to blossom in all areas of your life.” - Kate Campbell
Taking something that happened and breaking it down into smaller components allows you to really understand the choices you made, what worked, and what didn't go so well. You can then go deeper and look at your strengths and weaknesses in the scenario, where you need to focus on, and the way you could do things better or differently next time. This helps you to prevent repeating past mistakes or unhelpful behaviours.