There's something you really want, but it's going to be difficult to achieve. Maybe it'll take a few years and more skills and expertise than you currently have. Then you are presented with an easier option, one that you can reach fairly quickly and easily, but it's not really what you wanted.
What option would you choose if you had the choice?
Would you take the safety of an income, profession and lifestyle, even though it meant that your had to settle?
Or would you risk it all for the path that you truly want to pursue?
Nothing worth having in life is easy, and often there's too much going on in your life for you to devote your energy towards fighting for Option A.
Sometimes you just have to take Option B and make the best of it. Hopefully it will help steer you towards Option A in the future.
Taking a leap into the unknown may be completely unsuitable depending on your life situation, or maybe you're just not ready to take that risk. It's all completely okay!
It may not even be a choice in the end, and you have to take what you can get. Whatever happens, use the experiences to work towards your goal. Although it may take awhile to get to your desired outcome; hard work and perseverance generally payoff, even if only years down the track.
Keep fighting! Option B isn't the end, just a different path.
We are designed differently, so embrace your individuality.
Everyday I hear statements like 'I'm not good enough' and 'I'm not smart enough,' and I think to myself 'for who?' All that matters in life is that you're the best version of yourself, and not a version of somebody else.
Constantly aspiring to be someone else can be very damaging, because on your quest to be somebody else, you may loose track of who you really are. We were all designed differently, with different genes, personalities and talents. We were never made to be the same.
Life is filled with diversity and rich in culture, and this has only happened because people have embraced their own individuality. Too often I see people loosing their individuality because of their desire to follow the crowd and fit in. I've always held the view that you need to embrace your unique personality, as it is a gift, not a burden.
You are an amazing person, and by trying to be someone else, you loose a key part of your unique spirit. Learning to be happy with who you are is definitely a challenge, but it is an important and healthy challenge.
Every time that you think that you're not good enough, make sure you ask your self who you're not good enough for. If the answer is for your friends and family, then you need to know that you are good enough. They love you just the way you are, regardless of your flaws.
True friends don't want to change you into somebody you're not, and neither will your family. If your answer is for the world, then chances are you're trying to live up to the standards that the media place on you. It's not worth it, those standards may seem ideal, but they're not who you are.
So give it a try for a week, exist for you and not the world. Be content in the fact that your family and friends love the real you.
Are you happy with who you are? Are you content with your life?
'Sometimes the hardest part of the journey is believing you're worthy of the trip.'
Yes, there’s always areas of our mental, spiritual, physical and emotional selves that we are working on improving, but they shouldn't compromise our feelings of self-worth.
'Based on how you see yourself you will conclude what your worth is and how valuable you are.'
Self-worth often takes a journey of self-discovery and reflection to find, and sometimes it may be buried under years of hurt and criticism. It could take a while before you find it, but keep searching, don’t worry, it’ll be there.
'Your value doesn't decrease based on someone's inability to see your worth.'
It’s a word that’s often tied in with self-confidence and self-love. They’re almost a trio of sorts, and I think that they’re all interwoven together in our core identity. It would be difficult to have one without the others, and I believe that it’s important to look after all three areas.
‘I went from zero to my own here.’ -Roar, Katy Perry
Last year I came to realise that I often lacked confidence in my ability to achieve and complete things. Over the past few years I have been faced with many challenges, exams and assessments, and usually wasn’t very confident beforehand that I would pass and be successful.
Whenever I approached another bridge my head would fill up with self doubt, and I would question whether I was even supposed to be there. I’ve felt like an imposter in my own life. I didn’t think it wasn’t a question of confidence, but a question of how I see myself. I then started focusing on exploring my self-worth, and how it affected my approach to challenges.
Self-worth is defined as 'the sense of one's own value or worth as a person.'
Tips to build self-worth:
- Stop comparing yourself to others
- Challenge your critical inner voice
- Acknowledge that imperfection is something all humans share
- Practice self-compassion towards yourself and your experiences
- Take part in activities that are meaningful to you
- Act in line with your values and ethics
I used to wonder why I let my inner critic be in charge for so long. I think it may have been because it was easier to take failure when I didn't think I had a shot. It's a lot harder to give a challenge everything you have, and then not be successful.
I’ve now decided that I'm not really living as my true self, if I don't hit every challenge with all the strength I have. Then if I don't succeed I have the assurance that I gave it my best. To me that’s an indicator that I’ve found my self-worth, and have confidence in who I am as a person. I understand my strengths and weaknesses, and am happy with who I am.
"I think self love is the most important kind of love. With it you don't have to rely on anyone else to validate you as a person, and it's the kind of love that when nurtured, allows you to blossom in all areas of your life.” - Kate Campbell